The Soul Chronicles: When Saying “No More” Becomes An Act Of Love
When the time comes that gently pushes you towards saying no more… enough is enough.
“Boundaries are the greatest act of self respect & love one can have.”
For those who may not know, I am also a hairdresser. I have been in the industry for well over a decade now, & recently, for the very first time in my working career, I had to lovingly send a client on there way.
This moment in time came down to boundaries & the truth is, the lack of them. Partly my responsibility, because I hadn’t made them clear enough in the beginning & along the way.
As someone who has spent the best part of life as a people pleaser, someone who once had no sense of boundaries at all, this has been one of my greatest challenges to learn, practice & implement every single day.
In truth, letting go of this client made me feel, at first, like I had failed her. I felt guilt, maybe I hadn’t done enough, maybe I could have tried harder, maybe I had let her down.
But the deeper truth is this: you cannot help someone who is unwilling to help themselves, & you are not responsible for carrying another person’s pain, struggles, or suffering.
What I’ve come to know & understand is that true healing, whether behind the hairdressing chair, or when I am holding space in a holistic therapy & healing session, or in life itself, can only unfold when there is mutual respect, honesty, & honour.
This was not a failure. This was a reminder.
A reminder that boundaries are not walls. They are bridges. They protect both people, creating space for truth, respect, & authentic connection.
& so, with deepest of love, I chose to honour both of us by saying no more.
I invite you to take a gentle pause & reflection,
In what areas of my life am i saying yes when my whole body is whispering no?
Where do i give more than i receive?
What would change if i honoured my own needs & truths?
With The Deepest
Love & Light
🙏🏼💖✨
