The Soul Chronicles: Navigating Grief During the Holiday Season

As we have all experienced at some level is that the holiday season often brings joy, warmth, laughter & togetherness. Yet, for many it also stirs up feelings of grief & loss. When someone dear to us is missing, the familiar celebrations can sometimes feel heavy or sometimes painful. It is common for grief to show up in unexpected ways especially during this time of year, whether as sadness, irritability or a sense of disconnection. Understanding how grief appears & learning to move through it with grace can help create space for healing. It is also more than ok for the holiday season to look different than before. Starting new traditions that feel soulfully led can bring comfort & meaning.

Let me share with you a personal one, i have lost a few loved ones but in particular a nonna who i cherished & at this time of year we would normally prepare traditional Italian foods & desserts together. As she is no longer around, the way i move through grief is now my mother & i have carried on the tradition of cooking all the Italian foods & desserts in honouring the memory of her. The most beautiful thing is i can deeply feel her presence, always standing close, always hearing her chat away at me while i cook away.

How Grief Shows Up During The Holidays

Grief is not a linear process, & the holidays can intensify emotions. Some common ways grief may appear include:

• Heightened sadness or loneliness: The absence of loved ones can feel more acute when traditions remind us of what’s missing.

• Irritability or restlessness: Stress from gatherings or expectations can trigger frustration.

• Avoidance or withdrawal: Some may choose to skip events or isolate themselves to protect their feelings.

• Physical symptoms: Fatigue, headaches, or changes in appetite can accompany emotional pain.

  
  

Recognising these signs helps us respond with kindness to ourselves & others. Grief is a natural response to loss, & it’s okay to feel whatever arises.

Moving Through Grief With Grace

Navigating grief during the holidays requires patience & self-compassion. Here are some gentle ways to move through this season:

• Allow yourself to feel

Give permission to experience your emotions without judgment. Crying, talking, or journaling can be healing outlets.

• Set realistic expectations

It’s okay if you don’t feel festive or if your energy is low. Adjust plans to what feels manageable.

• Reach out for support

Connect with friends, support groups, or a counsellor who understands grief. Sharing your feelings lightens the burden.

• Create moments of quiet

Take breaks from busy schedules to breathe, meditate, or enjoy nature. These pauses can restore calm.

• Honour your loved one

Light a candle, share stories, cook a shared dish or include a special item in your decorations. These acts keep memories alive in a gentle way.

Lighting a candle to honour loved ones can bring comfort during the holidays.

"Your absence is felt, but in this glow, your spirit shines, infinitely, from my heart to yours."

Embracing Change & Starting New Traditions

When grief reshapes your holiday experience, it’s natural for traditions to shift. Instead of holding on to old ways that may feel painful, consider creating new rituals that reflect your current needs & values. This can be a soulful process that honours both loss & hope..

Some ideas to inspire new traditions:

• Volunteer or give back

Helping others can bring a sense of purpose & connection.

• Cook or bake something different

Try a new recipe or create a dish that your loved one enjoyed.

• Spend time outdoors

A walk, hike, or picnic can offer fresh energy & a break from indoor expectations.

• Start a gratitude practice

Each day, write down or share something you appreciate. This shifts focus toward what remains.

• Gather in smaller groups

Intimate settings can feel safer & more meaningful.

Remember, new traditions don’t have to replace old ones completely. They can coexist or evolve over time. The key is to listen to your heart & choose what feels right.

Moving Forward With Compassion

Grief during the holidays is a deeply personal journey. There is no “right” way to experience or express it. By acknowledging your feelings, adjusting expectations, & embracing change, you create space for healing & growth. The holidays may look different now, but they can still hold warmth, connection, & meaning.

If you find yourself struggling, reach out for support. You are not alone. This season can be a time to honour the past while gently stepping into new ways of celebrating life.

Remember, to know grief is to know love & to have known it deeply.

With The Deepest

Love & Light

Celina

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